WASHINGTON — Yippee. Another study about how your private insecurities are to blame for troubled work relationships and probably everything else that's going wrong in your life. Researchers from the London Business School have determined that self-conscious, paranoid people are more likely to be gossiped about behind their backs, because they're so insanely self-conscious and paranoid.
In a paper called "Do I want to know? How the motivation to acquire relationship-threatening information in groups contributes to paranoid thought, suspicion behavior and social rejection," a team led by Jennifer Mason Carr notes that it's normal and healthy to wonder what others think of you — up to a point. If you seem too invested in the question or sniff around too eagerly for hints, your peers get weirded out. And then they develop a negative opinion of you, based on the fact that you were so worried they might have a negative opinion of you.
To find out how MARTI ("motivation to acquire relationship-threatening information") messes with people, Carr and her colleagues assigned 102 test subjects a set of tasks. The researchers then implied that some participants were doing a better job on the tasks than others — and asked each subject if he or she wanted to exclude certain group members from the mission. People who showed high MARTI qualities were, on average, 3.63 times more likely to get the ax than less paranoid people.
In other words, you'd better not care too much about what the world thinks, or you'll become a pariah! Of course, someone reasonably at peace with the idea of being disliked would not obsess over just that possibility — whereas if Carr's research worries you, it may already be too late: Your office probably has you pegged as a nut job. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy: Those who are anxious about others' disapproval will ironically act in ways that attract that disapproval.